The Wonderful World of Minotaur

Being a sensitive overthinking girlie is hard. The smallest thing could happen and I’ll take it personally. And when I say the smallest thing, it could be a change in your tone or an unanswered call. Suddenly my mind has gone into overthinking mode and my anxiety convinces me that I am the problem, everyone hates me and I’d be better off alone. Cue me retreating into my shell and a bunch of other dramatics. 

In recent years, I’ve had to actively work on getting out of this trap. Because that’s exactly what it is – a trap and a trick your mind plays on you. Feeding into negative thoughts opens up the worst can of worms because it never really stops. Anything that happens to you is all your fault and everyone hates you. It’s unhealthy and it doesn’t benefit anyone, most of all yourself. 

It’s also pretty self-centred. I feel like people don’t usually talk about this aspect of it. Being convinced that you are the reason why people are acting weird can be slightly self-absorbed. It’s fair since we do live in our own heads and we are with ourselves way more than we’re with anyone else. But to get out of the trap of thinking in these negative thought patterns, here are some reasons I give myself as to why someone could be acting ‘weird’:

• They’re in a bad mood – the same way you can be off when you’re in a bad mood is the same way someone else could be. And no, they are not in a bad mood because of you. It could be someone annoying in traffic or a family member saying something to annoy them. You are not the reason behind everything bad.
• You’re in a bad mood – maybe they’ve sensed your foul mood and decided to be defensive in anticipation of your ‘weird’ energy. 
• They’re distracted – maybe their energy is different because they’re not mentally present. 
• They don’t recognise you – is their greeting cold and distant? Maybe they don’t recognise you. It could be dark or you could have done a different hairstyle or style of makeup. 
• They’re on substances – it could be alcohol or drugs. Maybe there’s something that’s altering their personality slightly and making their interactions with you slightly different than usual. 
• It’s been a while – maybe you haven’t seen or spoken to them in months or years and they’re not sure where your relationship is. 

All in all, there are a plethora of reasons for why people act the way they do. And sometimes (a lot of the time) it’s not you, it’s them. The real moral of the story is to not take things personally. People will act the way they will act, sometimes you just have to leave them to their own devices.